Offices in Walnut Creek and Pinole
Voicemail: 510-986-9836
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There are many possible causes of abusive relationships. Childhood issues, brain chemistry, significant life transitions, and societal messages are just a few. Whatever the source, abusive relationships function by virtue of a deficit and/or an over-abundance of sustained form.*
The solution is to give more form to that which is underformed while decreasing form in overly-formed structures.
Successful treatment involves the following:
- A desire for change.
- A safe environment.
- A willingness to take responsibility for how you contribute to the dynamic.
- Commitment to changing your own behavior.
- Practice.
* Form refers to structure and boundaries. A lack of form generates dependency or an experience of being out of control. An over-abundance of form generates rigity and immobility, which takes the shape of dominance, self-righteousness, entitlement, persistence, belligerence, or withholding.
Underformed people may have moments or periods of assertiveness, and over-formed people may have moments or periods of receptivity, contrition, and compassion, but both types are unable to sustain desired states.
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Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist offering individual and couples counseling & psychotherapy. His offices are in Walnut Creek and Pinole, easily accessible from Antioch, Bay Point, Benecia, Clayton, Concord, Crockett, Danville, El Cerrito, Hercules, Lafayette, Martinez, Moraga, Orinda, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, Point Richmond, Richmond, Rodeo, San Pablo, and San Ramon. He specialized in working with clients on anger management, high conflict and abusive relationships (including domestic violence), communication, intimacy, and other significant personal and relationship problems.
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