Do you put everyone else first? Do you feel responsible for everyoneís happiness? Is their anger and stress always somehow your fault? Do you go along with what other people want just to be with them and to keep the peace? Will you do just about anything to keep your relationship alive, even if itís making you miserable?
This is a fairly common syndrome.
It starts out that you are thoughtful, considerate, generous, flexible, and accommodating. The next thing you know, thatís your identity! Now, everyone expects this of you, especially family, friends, and perhaps co-workers. When you stray from the norm, they ask whatís wrong or whatís gotten into you, and even you find yourself wondering.
Codependency is a problem that is reinforced by your surroundings. I work with clients to make desired changes that support the emergence of who they trying to become while taking into account the value and importance of their surrounding circumstances.
Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist offering individual and couples counseling & psychotherapy. His offices are in Walnut Creek and Pinole, easily accessible from Antioch, Bay Point, Benecia, Clayton, Concord, Crockett, Danville, El Cerrito, Hercules, Lafayette, Martinez, Moraga, Orinda, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, Point Richmond, Richmond, Rodeo, San Pablo, and San Ramon. He specialized in working with clients on anger management, high conflict and abusive relationships (including domestic violence), communication, intimacy, and other significant personal and relationship problems.