People think that they are who they are and that’s that. “This is who I am, that’s just me.”
In fact, who we are, our identity is something that we can form.
I make the translation: I am how I do things, and how I do things is something over which I have (or can learn to have) a significant amount of control.
Identity and a feeling of satisfaction (self esteem) comes from the ability to influence how we respond to impulses and situations.
My work focuses on empowering clients to form their own personalized way of doing things. This is an educational process as much as an exploratory one, and I offer the pragmatic support you need to make the life that is your potential rather than simply the living-out of an inherited fate.
Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist offering individual and couples counseling & psychotherapy. His offices are in Walnut Creek and Pinole, easily accessible from Antioch, Bay Point, Benecia, Clayton, Concord, Crockett, Danville, El Cerrito, Hercules, Lafayette, Martinez, Moraga, Orinda, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, Point Richmond, Richmond, Rodeo, San Pablo, and San Ramon. He specialized in working with clients on anger management, high conflict and abusive relationships (including domestic violence), communication, intimacy, and other significant personal and relationship problems.