A severe violation or shock to the system forces us into an unforgiving relationship with our vulnerability, our fragility, and even our mortality.
Responses to this can vary, but people tend to rigidify in an instinctive attempt to stay in control of an overwhelming situation.
Sometimes people get “stuck” in this rigid defense-pattern. At other times they may feel defeated, collapsed, and profoundly demoralized, even ashamed.
In a gradual but powerful process, I work with clients to soften structures that have them locked-up and to build a sense of structure and substance where before they may have felt deflated, helpless, and empty.
Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist offering individual and couples counseling & psychotherapy. His offices are in Walnut Creek and Pinole, easily accessible from Antioch, Bay Point, Benecia, Clayton, Concord, Crockett, Danville, El Cerrito, Hercules, Lafayette, Martinez, Moraga, Orinda, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, Point Richmond, Richmond, Rodeo, San Pablo, and San Ramon. He specialized in working with clients on anger management, high conflict and abusive relationships (including domestic violence), communication, intimacy, and other significant personal and relationship problems.