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Open Relationships, Polyamory, and Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)

Sun, 12 Apr 2026 03:35:25 GMT

Evolving and emerging relationship structures

Open relationships, ethical non-monogamy, and polyamory has been around for a while, but they still feel new, alien, and even threatening to a lot of people.

Many will say you can’t have your cake and eat it too, they’ll call it a fear of commitment. Even therapists will often suggest you have an attachment disorder. Meanwhile, some politicians will say, the next thing you know, people will want permission to marry animals!

But is working at having what you want really inferior to resenting your partner/spouse and grieving an attainable fulfilment?

So many relationships labeled monogamous become tumultuous and even end as a result of infidelity, it might be said that the assumption and expectation of monogamy is a leading cause of divorce.

To be fair, as sexual orientation is hardwired rather than chosen, the same might be true for someone who is monogamous/non-monogamous. In both cases, pressuring someone to be other than what they are is oppressive and can be abusive. So it is important to distinguish between what is learned and what is true to your being. It is possible for ones orientations to shift over time - but not by the will of others.

It is also important to distinguish if there is a problem in your relationship that is being overlooked or avoided rather than a genuine interest and capacity for non-monogamy.

Any which way, I am here to help you untangle the threads of societal expectations, personal needs and relationship dynamics so that you can entangle in the ways that make sense for you as individuals and as a couple, triad, etc.

Grief

Fri, 27 Mar 2026 04:12:00 GMT

The inevitable but unpredictable nature of grief

Whether it’s the loss of a parent, a pet, a relationship, a job, a home, a dream, a phase of your child’s life, your own youth, abilities, and eventually health, the loss of someone and something cherished can jolt us into an almost unrecognizable state.

It’s like a fracture, the opening through which reveals an abyss we might not even have known was there.

Grief is an emotional injury that people cannot see, so they may not know how badly you’re hurting. Others may not feel that your loss warrants such devastation. People may lack the capacity or know how to support you. But what you love is personal and an integral part of the fabric of who you are.

I cannot fix or replace what is broken, but having gone through so many profound and agonizing losses myself, I can sit with you in the overwhelm and the confusion.

Eventually, by cruel necessity if nothing else, on its own, the fractured bone starts to knit and with caring presence and careful support, I will hold the space and work with you as another iteration of your life forms.

Make the most of the season by following these simple guidelines

aaron@catscapes.com (Aaron Feldman) — Mon, 13 Oct 2025 21:03:54 GMT

The new season is a great reason to make and keep resolutions. Whether it’s eating right or cleaning out the garage, here are some tips for making and keeping resolutions.

Make a list

Lists are great ways to stay on track. Write down some big things you want to accomplish and some smaller things, too.

Check the list regularly

Don’t forget to check in and see how you’re doing. Just because you don’t achieve the big goals right away doesn’t mean you’re not making progress.

Reward yourself

When you succeed in achieving a goal, be it a big one or a small one, make sure to pat yourself on the back.

Think positively

Positive thinking is a major factor in success. So instead of mulling over things that didn’t go quite right, remind yourself of things that did.

Keep in touch with site visitors and boost loyalty

aaron@catscapes.com (Aaron Feldman) — Mon, 13 Oct 2025 21:03:54 GMT

There are so many good reasons to communicate with site visitors. Tell them about sales and new products or update them with tips and information.

Here are some reasons to make blogging part of your regular routine.

Blogging is an easy way to engage with site visitors

Writing a blog post is easy once you get the hang of it. Posts don’t need to be long or complicated. Just write about what you know, and do your best to write well.

Show customers your personality

When you write a blog post, you can really let your personality shine through. This can be a great tool for showing your distinct personality.

Blogging is a terrific form of communication

Blogs are a great communication tool. They tend to be longer than social media posts, which gives you plenty of space for sharing insights, handy tips and more.

It’s a great way to support and boost SEO

Search engines like sites that regularly post fresh content, and a blog is a great way of doing this. With relevant metadata for every post so search engines can find your content.

Drive traffic to your site

Every time you add a new post, people who have subscribed to it will have a reason to come back to your site. If the post is a good read, they’ll share it with others, bringing even more traffic!

Blogging is free

Maintaining a blog on your site is absolutely free. You can hire bloggers if you like or assign regularly blogging tasks to everyone in your company.

A natural way to build your brand

A blog is a wonderful way to build your brand’s distinct voice. Write about issues that are related to your industry and your customers.

Tips for writing great posts that increase your site traffic

aaron@catscapes.com (Aaron Feldman) — Mon, 13 Oct 2025 21:03:54 GMT

Write about something you know. If you don’t know much about a specific topic that will interest your readers, invite an expert to write about it.

Speak to your audience

You know your audience better than anyone else, so keep them in mind as you write your blog posts. Write about things they care about. If you have a company Facebook page, look here to find topics to write about

Take a few moments to plan your post

Once you have a great idea for a post, write the first draft. Some people like to start with the title and then work on the paragraphs. Other people like to start with subtitles and go from there. Choose the method that works for you.

Don’t forget to add images

Be sure to include a few high-quality images in your blog. Images break up the text and make it more readable. They can also convey emotions or ideas that are hard to put into words.

Edit carefully before posting

Once you’re happy with the text, put it aside for a day or two, and then re-read it. You’ll probably find a few things you want to add, and a couple more that you want to remove. Have a friend or colleague look it over to make sure there are no mistakes. When your post is error-free, set it up in your blog and publish.