It's common for the passion, the romance, the interest, and even the connection of a relationship to die down over time.
Sometimes the cause is a change in lifestyle: kids, a more demanding job, financial stress, or a loss of some kind... By design, the excitement of someone new diminishes. Perhaps you are experiencing subtle or more obvious physiological changes.
Maybe over the course of events, you realize this isn't the person you thought. Perhaps you have changed, leaving the other behind in some way.
There is the love you fall for...and that falls away, and then there is the love that you build. I assist couples in making the transitions from one to the other. Forming relationships is a creative and active process that engages our ability to participate in our own evolution and that of our relationships.
Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist offering individual and couples counseling & psychotherapy. His office is in Walnut Creek, easily accessible to Antioch, Bay Point, Benecia, Clayton, Concord, Crockett, Danville, Hercules, Lafayette, Martinez, Orinda, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, Rodeo, and San Ramon. He specializes in working with clients on anger management, high conflict and abusive relationships (including domestic violence), communication, intimacy, and other significant personal and relationship problems.